Hi all! It’s been a long time, and I’m sorry for the delay. I’ve been in a time of waiting & transition recently – waiting to get a new job, and then transitioning into that job once I (thankfully, gratefully, joyously) got it.
I have been at my current job for just over 2 1/2 years, and about a year ago I applied for my first full-time position. I prepared, thought and overthought, practiced, and prayed. I didn’t get it. At the time, obviously I was disappointed and didn’t understand how I couldn’t have gotten the job. However, over the last year, the things I have learned have taught me that I am so much more prepared now than I ever thought I could be then.
I definitely went through a time of not wanting to do more than was asked of me, because I thought it wouldn’t matter, or be noticed or appreciated. I wasn’t incredibly motivated to go above and beyond, which normally brings me a lot of gratification, so it wasn’t a time I really enjoyed.
About 7 months ago I lost my mom, and pretty soon after that, got a second part-time job that I truly didn’t like for various reasons. The combination of these two things, when I look back, spurred me into a few realizations: that I really knew a lot about my job (the first one), that I really enjoyed my job and the people I worked with, and that I wanted to commit to those people and that place more than I wanted two mediocre experiences and two different places.
So, I did a few things that I think can be pretty much universally applied in times of waiting, or transition, and I’ll list them here.
- Learned new skills – I focused more of my attention on developing skills I didn’t have yet, and looked out every day for things I didn’t know how to do. It gave me a tangible way to always be moving forward and feel good about coming to work every day.
- Found new opportunities – There were quite a few events and trainings that I had the chance to take part in, and simply finding the motivation to go to them proved to be so so valuable. It got me out of my comfort zone and interacting with my coworkers on a deeper level.
- Reflected – I found when I took a look at the things that made me good at my current job, as well as what opportunities I had to improve, I could set more attainable and clear goals.
- Observed – Watching those around me who were in leadership roles and had specific skills that I lacked helped me to work on those things and get better at them.
- Studied – This might sound boring, but what I mean is that I studied the process of interviewing and getting hired. I think every place has a slightly different process and I can’t stress highly enough the value of learning that process.
This time around I did pretty much the same thing: prayed, prepared, practiced interview questions, and thought and thought and thought about how it might go and all the possible outcomes. I think the major differences were: that I knew a lot more about the process of interviewing and being hired and that I had more confidence in my abilities (though I’m still working on that one).
When I didn’t get the job a year ago, my mom told me that it just must not be the right thing, and I absolutely agree. The things I’ve learned in the last year and the colleagues I’ve developed better relationships with are invaluable to me.
Moving forward, I hope to make my voice stronger and become more of a leader. One of the things I value most is learning from people who know more than I do, or who have more experience and wisdom, and can communicate that in a way that I respect and enjoy. The final thing I would recommend is finding a mentor who can give advice and feedback in a way that makes sense to you, someone you can go to with anything, and who will build you up.
I hope this helps someone! I know living it has helped me. 🙂
Until next time! xx